Dear Susie,
Hi. I’ve been pretty sad recently due to my friends. I feel really left out, but I don’t know what to do to change this. Do you have any advice that could help this situation better for my mental health?
Thanks,
Shunned Sidekick
Dear Shunned Sidekick,
Feeling left out by friends can be really painful, and it’s completely normal to feel sad about it. Sometimes we have to remember that friendships change naturally over time because people get busy, grow in different directions, or face things in their own lives that affect how they connect. That doesn’t mean you’re any less important or that you did anything wrong. Their actions may feel personal, but it’s rarely a reflection of your worth.
It is also ok to create space for new connections through outside activities. This doesn’t replace your current friends, it just gives you more ways to feel seen and supported. Your feelings matter, and it’s okay to prioritize your mental health by surrounding yourself with people who make you feel included. Feeling active rather than passive can improve mental health and reduce the sense of exclusion.
You need to realize your worth. If your friends are not including you then it isn’t your fault. You may want to be friends with them, but if they don’t treat you right then don’t spend energy on something that won’t benefit your mental health. You have to find the right people for you that help you be supported and happy without the drainage of your health.
You can do this. Keep pushing through because these instances don’t last forever.
Sincerely,
Susie